“I wish I could, but I’m just so busy.”
Busyness is something we talk about a lot in our world. Our culture has a weird obsession with the concept of “being busy.” We view our time as a means of currency, and busyness is the best way to get our money’s worth. We spend every minute trying to be as productive as we can, treating any moment not devoted to our goals as a waste. In fact, we’re so fixated on “being busy” that we perceive our busiest moments as our best ones.
That time you only got four hours of sleep because you were up finishing a project? That day you spent glued to your laptop because you were so preoccupied with work? In our culture, these are not just triumphs of a good work ethic, but badges of pride and honor. These are things we can brag about to our friends and on social media, because there’s nothing we hold in higher regard than being busy.
I myself have certainly fallen prey to the world’s fascination with busyness. I couldn’t even estimate the number of times I’ve gotten caught up in the grand allure of multitasking (which really isn’t that effective, tbh) and attempted to get a million things done in as little time as humanely possible. I’m doing it now, actually. As I write this post, I’m simultaneously checking my email and thinking through a series of things I’ll have to get done tomorrow.
Even though I engage in these behaviors on a regular basis, I feel like I have to admit that busyness and the desire for nearly constant productivity isn’t all it’s cracked up to be (yikes…sorry for that rhyme). While busyness sounds great in theory, it’s much different in practice.
For starters, it’s hard impossible. Expecting yourself to “be busy” all the time is setting yourself up for failure. It’s creating a goal that is a 100 percent, without-a-doubt unattainable. A goal that no matter how hard you try, you will never be able to fully achieve.
In addition to its lack of realism, being busy every moment of every day doesn’t actually increase your productivity. We get tired. We get worn down. And, eventually, these things will take their toll. Even if you somehow manage to work yourself to the point of total and complete exhaustion, you won’t be able to do it in your top form. And what’s the point of being busy all the time if, you know, you aren’t actually getting stuff done?
I’m not saying we shouldn’t celebrate hard work; hard work should always be celebrated. But the commemoration of our accomplishments and achievements shouldn’t take precedence over every single thing in our lives. We shouldn’t be so wired on doing well and making the most of every minute that we feel guilty about taking breaks and doing fun, nonproductive things.
I don’t want to feel bad about watching Netflix for a couple of hours instead of doing my laundry, and neither should you. Success and productivity should be important parts of our lives, but we shouldn’t live by the idea that taking a few hours for ourselves here and there and spending them in “unproductive” ways is a bad thing.
We need to stop glorifying busyness. We need to stop passing around the idea that we should feel bad about ourselves if every new day isn’t our most productive. Most importantly, we need to let ourselves breathe and remember that we’re doing the best we can.
Do you feel a pressure to be busy all the time?
I fully agree! It’s fine if that busy life suits you, but otherwise we need to learn to take our time and do things at our own pace again!
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Exactly! It’s perfectly okay to like being busy, but we shouldn’t demand ourselves to be busy all the time!
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I use to feel pressured to stay busy all of the time but you’re absolutely right being busy has been glorified all of my life. I’ve seen many people around me work themselves to the ground literally. At 26 I finally said that isn’t going to be me anymore and now I enjoy taking breaks even while getting shamed for it.
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I used to feel the same way, and it really does just end up leaving people burned out! Taking breaks is so important!
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Definitely important!
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Girl you are amazing with your blog post ideas! I completely love reading it. ❤️
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Thank you! 🙂
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omg this is spot on for what Ive been talking about! Bravo to you for making this truthful post. “fake busy” kills friendships. The sad thing is that its merely a new age thing.
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Thank you so much! Fake busyness really does ruin friendships! And it makes it so easy to burn out!
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Thank you so much for this post!! I totally agree with you! I personally feel a pressure on doing a lot of things and constantly having somethig to do too!
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You’re welcome! Thank you so much for reading! It’s a pretty difficult feeling to escape, isn’t it?
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Yeaaah!! So many things to remember you that you should be busy and productive…!
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What a great post ! I’m always saying that I’m busy…. need to reduce that word in my vocabulary 😄
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Thank you! And I catch myself saying it all the time as well haha!
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I used to be obsessed with being productive 100% e.g. when I watch TV, I knit or exercise at the same time; I choose to only read non-fiction books because I felt that fiction/entertainment is a waste of time… etc it was really quite crazy. 😂
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I couldn’t agree more. I work hard enough, without beating myself up for stealing an hour to read a book in the bath oe have a lie in in the morning. Relaxation time is so important. My other half has quite bad anxiety and the need to always have plans and goals really drives that – it’s been so tough for him to work on being mindful and enjoying the moments when he stops still without worrying that he should be achieving something. Time out is not the enemy! It’s so frustrating to see being busy portrayed as the norm – it isn’t. Also – love that skirt!
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This is so true, I always feel as if I should be constantly on the go. It’s actually quite hard to stay focused on one thing and just get it done. I’m like you, trying to write a blog post but doing a ton of other stuff at the same time and it’s not productive! really enjoyed reading, very relatable post.
Samantha x
https://thebeautyspyglass.com
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Yes!!! This really hit home for me! Thanks girl! ❤️
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I am far too lazy to make myself busy all the time!! But I am glad you pointed out this fixation with having to always be doing something instead of relaxing. Life is about having fun too!!
-Lena
http://www.lenasnotebook.co.uk
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