Hey, You, Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself

Do you ever look at old photos photos of yourself that you’ve completely forgotten the context of and just wonder “what was going on here?”

That’s basically me with this photo here.

I shot these photos on a rare sunny day almost a month ago. And as I was transferring them off my camera roll today, I couldn’t help but wish I still remember what I was staring at here. I mean, seriously. I look pretty engrossed in something, don’t I?

I’m sitting here, desperately trying to remember the details surrounding the concentrated look on my face. It’s a meaningless thing to be focused on, I know. But it’s KILLING ME that I can’t remember. Was there a rabid squirrel somewhere in the distance? Did I just realize that my open-toed heels had sunken in mud? Had I simply zoned out? I need answers.

Oh well. If it ever comes to mind, I’ll make sure to let you all know (though I’m sure you’re not as invested in this as I am).

Now that I’ve spent nearly 200 words rambling about something that no one cares about (sorry!), I suppose it’s time to transition to the real reason that I’m writing a blog post in the first place.

That reason, my reader, would be you.

And my message, as you might have already guessed, is a simple one.

Quit being so hard on yourself.

I’ll say it again—louder for the people in the back.


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Now that I’ve shouted at out (the voice in your head was shouting when you read that the second time, right?), I’ll try to explain myself a little less aggressively.

You’re being way too hard on yourself, and you need to stop. I know this not because I’m watching you through your webcam (I know you’re there, mysterious government agent), but because you clicked on this post. And that tells me that it’s time to tell you to cut yourself some slack.

I know that it can be hard to take a minute and go easy on yourself. We live in a world that instructs us to do basically anything but that. Our culture is fast-paced and changing. It encourages us to push ourselves past our breaking points, put our work above everything else, and forget about ever slowing down.

But sometimes, you need to just drown out all that noise and give yourself a break.

Because you are not a robot that can function for hours and hours and hours with no rest or reward.

Because while it can be great to push your limits, they’re there for a reason.

Remember that it’s perfectly okay to give yourself relaxation time. That you don’t need to be demanding something from yourself at EVERY GIVEN MINUTE if you want to be successful. There is a balance to everything. And it’s important for you to locate that balance and implement it in your life.

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Outfit Details: 

Dress (similar): ASOS

Jacket (similar): Urban Outfitters

Necklace: Tiffany’s

Lips: Anastasia Beverly Hills

You shouldn’t have to devote all your time and energy to one thing. That would be like defining yourself using one personality trait or possessing only one belief. It would be ridiculous.

People are multifaceted for a reason. You are not just one thing. You are an abundance of things. You deserve to enjoy all the things that you love, not just the ones that are considered productive. In fact, you owe it to yourself to do things you enjoy, regardless of how productive they make you.

So, quit expecting too much from yourself. Have high expectations but not impossibly high expectations. Demand a lot but not so much that you have nothing left. And most importantly, give yourself a break.

Do you feel like you’re too hard on yourself? 

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16 thoughts on “Hey, You, Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself

  1. Have I ever told you that I love your writing? Well, if I havent then here you go – I LOVE YOUR WRITING. But about the actual subject – you hit me right in the feels lol. Im always way too hard on myself, especially when I feel like I havent been achieving much for a longer period of time. In these times I just try to remind myself that Ive already been through a lot and indeed achieved quite a few good things in my life. Great post love! xo

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    1. Thank you so much! And I know exactly what you mean. I get way too hard on myself sometimes as well, and it can be so difficult to get out of that way of thinking. It’s really important for us to remember that it’s okay to give ourselves a break!

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