I hope you all don’t mind if I go on a little bit of a tangent in today’s blog post. I’m publishing this immediately after I write it, so if it seems scattered or choppy that’s simply because I didn’t have the chance to proofread. Nevertheless, I really wanted to get a post up tonight and I need a space to do some thinking.
In life, we’re constantly faced with difficult choices. The decisions that we make are what shape us as people and give our lives purpose. I think what makes a choice a difficult choice is its realm of possibility. When you have two different scenarios laid out ahead of you, each of which are incredibly different, it’s easy to think about what you’re giving up by making the one choice. Plus, there’s that question of ‘what if?’ that always has the potential to come back and haunt you. Making difficult decisions is nerve-wracking, especially when the risk of one of your choices is so great.
For me, it’s not so much the decision-making that causes the worry. Deep down, I think we all know what we want, but sometimes we’re just too afraid to admit it. It’s the actual process of carrying out the decision that I find intense, going through with your decision and living with its consequences. Whether it’s saying goodbye to someone or something, or leaving a place behind, there is always an underlying element of sadness that comes along with tough choices. Because in order for a choice to be tough, it must involve giving something up.
As you’re making a difficult decision, I think it’s important to keep in mind exactly why you are making that decision. Given the opportunity, nerves or nostalgia will try to derail you. They”ll try to make a situation appear much more glamorous than it actually is, and then rope you into staying in it. But these mental tricks won’t allow us to progress or achieve the things we want in life. If we chose to leave something behind, we did so for a reason. Continuing with it won’t change anything.
It’s an old cliche that making a decision is like choosing from two separate paths. While I agree that there are two different ways you can make a decision, I don’t think that they’re both going in the same direction. You’re on one path. Your choices are to keep trekking ahead and look for what you want, or to turn back and follow what you already know. And while what’s ahead of you may be unknown, it’s ultimately what’s going to help you grow.
So the next time you’re faced with a difficult decision, remind yourself of everything that you want out of life. Think about which of your choices will propel you towards your goals. Don’t allow doubt or fear to get the best of you. Take a step forward and not a step back.
How do you deal with difficult decisions?