About a week ago, I wrote a post entitled “Managing the Fear of Failure.” It was a lot different than my normal content, but a few of you liked it and I really enjoyed writing it. Today I thought that I would elaborate on the whole idea of failure and what it takes it overcome it.
While my previous post talked about how to handle the arbitrary concept of failure, I wanted to discuss what it means to actually fail.It’s unfortunate, but at some point we all experience something that we consider to be a failure. It could be doing poorly on a test, or falling behind at work, or realizing that you’ve missed out on an opportunity. The feeling of failure comes in different forms at different ages. And it can be pretty depleting.
Failing at something is like having your worst fears come to life. It’s having all of those nagging, negative fears turn into realities. The thing about failure is that while we know it’s always a possibility, we never really expect it to happen. I think that’s ultimately what makes it so devastating.
While failure is a terrible feeling and certainly not something that we should look forward to, I think there are aspects of defeat that can be considered good. I know that it’s
kind of a cliche sentiment, but I truly believe that we are defined by our failures rather than our successes. It’s the bad things in life that fuel us and drive us to work harder. It’s the obstacles and challenges that force us to become more resilient.
It’s so easy to give up and let yourself be defeated by failure. What takes strength is rising up from your failure and throwing yourself back into whatever you were unsuccessful with, fully aware that it could happen again. In my experience, being able to overcome failure makes success more attainable. As difficult as it may seem, the best thing to do is pick yourself up and give it another try.
How do you deal with failure?